Grace For The Journey
Only two days a year (on my wedding anniversary and church anniversary) do I use this blog for something other than to talk about the life we have in Christ. I do so without apology because part of what God is doing in my life is a result of my dear wife Kay and the precious church family at First Baptist Church.
I cannot thank God enough for giving me such a great friend, companion, completer, and beloved wife of forty-four years – something I celebrate every day! The time has passed by so quickly . . . especially because I have been blessed to spend it with the one I simply can’t imagine being without. This morning my mind is flooded with memories that fill my heart with unimaginable joy and thanksgiving to the One who brought us together and has seen us through it all.
I have sought to allow our great Lord to carry out His purpose in bringing us together. The Bible says in Malachi 2:15, “Did He not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? That He might seek a Godly offspring. Therefore, guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.”
It was 44 years ago today that God gave me my greatest gift after salvation . . . KAY! The holy covenant of marriage is a great gift from God. It is an even greater gift when you get to marry your BEST FRIEND in all-the world and work together to allow God to fulfill His purpose in your marriage.
Kay, your love for me has always been unconditional and your forgiveness complete. You have truly lived out the truth of the biblical definition of love, and for 44 years, you have continually laid down your life in sacrificial love for me and our four beloved daughters. You are not only the greatest wife in the world, but you are, without a doubt, the greatest mom in the world too.
Of all the sacrificial things you have done over the past 44 years in honoring our marriage covenant, there is one thing that you refused to do, and for that, I am eternally grateful . . .
You Have Refused To Love In Proportion To The Love Given!
You never let my level of love to you set the temperature of your love for me. You simply took God at His Word, and lived out the truth of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 . . .
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
God has brought us through many seasons together, and through it all, your love never failed. I know some of our years together have not always been easy, especially with the demands of the ministry. But you have stood by my side every step of the way. God knew exactly what I needed in a wife, ministry partner, and best friend and graciously gave you to me. You not only complement me – you complete me in every way.
Here is a truth that cannot be denied . . .
You are everything I am not . . .
And that’s a lot!
Only the grace of God could have carried us through these past forty-four years. Only the grace of God poured out into the heart of a Gospel-saturated wife could keep this marriage together and keep making it better and better.
I am a whole lot older and a little bit wiser than I was on that day – August 11, 1973 – when Kay and I looked into each other’ s eyes and said, “I do.” We have had an incredible life together! The Lord said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.” Over four decades of marriage have taught me that I am in no way self-sufficient. God showed me my need for a wife and was gracious to give me the wife I needed.
How many more years? Only the Lord knows. But whatever time He is pleased to give to me with my beloved wife and best friend in all the world, I pray there will be less of me in it and much more of Him.
Happy 44th Anniversary Kay . . .
I love you with all my heart
And will for the rest of my life.
How I love you my DEAR, PRECIOUS WIFE!